Are you painting over the cracks?

orange paint

How is May treating you? Are you also on a Spring Fever clearout like me? This is a slightly longer post than usual but stick with it as there’s some time sensitive info at the end 🙂 Actually, it’s not so much as a clear out (though that does need doing) as a fresh start. At least when it comes to the decoration of my home. If you read my last email then you might remember me mentioning painting my kitchen wall? I’d quickly applied the first coat of the ‘feature’ colour: Mango (that’s bright orange to you and me!) […] Read more »

What to do when you don’t know what to do….

Hello there! It’s been a while since I’ve posted…. apologies for the ‘radio silence’. So, where have I been, what’s been going on and what has that got to do with the topic of this email? …. as usual…. pretty much everything, as most of what I share with you stems from what’s going on in my life and how you can use that in yours 🙂 I think I last emailed round about my ‘big’ birthday back in July. That turned out to be more of a turning point than I expected. Once the day itself had passed it […] Read more »

Can you be friends with your ex?

I’ve been pondering this thought for a while – can you be friends with your ex? Especially immediately after you break up?  I’d love to know what you think!  Here are my thoughts….. For those of you that have been reading my blog for a while you’ll know what has triggered this thought….. I separated from my ex-fiance last August  – triggered by him and his assertion that he needed to be single to carry out his duties as a vicar. I agreed,  as at the time I felt that was the best thing for both of us. But deep […] Read more »

How good a (self) mother are you?

How are you fairing this winter?  I’m very aware that many people, especially in the UK, are struggling at the moment. Maybe it’s the dark days – though they are drawing out now. Maybe it’s the cold weather which seems to have been with us forever! Maybe it’s the horrible flu bug which has brought many of us to our knees this winter (I’m still not fully recovered following the resultant ear infection and burst ear drum!). But, even if it is all of these things (and many more besides) what can we do about it? Here in the UK […] Read more »

7 Top Tips for a sizzling singles Christmas‏

Are you all set for Christmas? With only a few days to go I thought I’d share my top tips for turning it from a time of surviving to a time of sizzling! I know for many that Christmas and New Year outside of a significant relationship can be hard, especially if this is your first on your own…. but it doesn’t have to be, it can be a time of great healing too – you just need to get yourself prepared  – are you ready? 🙂 Tip 1: Get your mindset right – decide to enjoy it and you […] Read more »

Looking for Love but making excuses?‏

I’ve been pondering lately on all the excuses we make and all the reasons why we can’t meet our soulmate/life partner. Do any of these sound familiar? I’m too fat/heavy/overweight I’m too old No one would be interested in me! I haven’t got time right now I’m not sure I want to be hurt again All the ‘good’ ones are taken/there’s no good one’s left What’s the point, they’ll only leave me again like last time I’m not ready yet I don’t go out – where will I meet someone? Can you hear yourself saying any of these and/or other […] Read more »

Have you truly claimed your independence?

I’m sure you’ve received several emails this week talking about Independence Day? I wasn’t going to focus on that as the theme for this email but it got me thinking in general about independence and what that means in a relationship. We give away our independence in all sorts of ways – have you noticed? When we’re single, and especially when we’re newly out of a relationship, we strike out on our own, determined to do, be and have everything we had to compromise on before. Even when we did this willingly many of us still get this urge to […] Read more »